The truth about college is that it’s not really a chance at a “new start.” Sure, college is a chance to meet new friends, explore social circles, and expand my hobbies, but there is one old habit which is hard to get rid of, and that is being susceptible to failure. Of course, failure is a natural part of life, but the depression, stress, worry, and self-loathing weighs heavily on the conscious of each student who feels their effort cannot produce desirable results.
In my experience as a college student, my peers define failure in many ways: having to drop a class, getting a C+ on their first essay, being enrolled in a school they did not want to attend at all, and having to switch majors. Looking back on their anguish, I wish I could have been more comforting, but I only nodded and told them I felt the same. Just like my peers, I didn’t care if I was the smartest kid in class, and I definitely didn’t take into consideration that one bad grade wouldn’t weigh me down: we saw no hope in ourselves because we were defined by failure.
While I am still a college freshman who has barely finished her midterms, I wish I hadn’t judged myself so harshly. I’ve been hard on myself since middle school, and I’m sure you, my reader, have pointed out your every flaw as a student. When it comes to failure, we both unfortunately agree that it punches us to the ground and mocks us. After having been pushed around my first month of college, I didn’t want to quit after succeeding getting into college. Feeling sorry for myself is a waste of time. To get rid of that feeling of dread, I finally reasoned with my failure, and what I have come to find is something I want to pass on to others.
Essentially, failure is the result of a problem left unconfronted. Sometimes, we overestimate our strengths on actions we can’t complete, and other times, our intimidation of tasks prevent us from completing something. There are two ways to confront your failure:
First of all, evaluate what caused you to your failure. No matter what your failure is, you need to admit why you had to fail. Let’s say you have failed a series of tests after you studied your hardest. Maybe the subject is too hard for you, and most of what you’re learning is like trying to translate German into Latin.
After you confront yourself, the next thing you have to do is ask yourself how to prevent yourself from failing once again. Maybe the solution to your problem would be to drop the class. The truth is, you are not ready to take the class, so maybe you should take time to do more outside studying and take the class next year.
Of course, some actions you must take will seem brash, but whatever choice you make, be sure that you made a decision that will benefit you in the end. Your goal is to be honest with yourself and gain the strength to confront your weaknesses. That will not mean that failure will never come your way again, but I promise, being honest with your failures will help you overcome them