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It’s finally December. Which means two things. One, the year is ending and the holidays are beginning. Two, early action/decision letters are coming out. It’s finally time. To be accepted, to be rejected. Either way, I’m going to cry. And while reading your letters can be nerve-wracking, talking about university admissions with classmates can be even more stressful (if someone asks me about a university, I’m probably going to tear up). Which is why I have compiled a list, detailing all the possible scenarios (at least all the ones that I have encountered), and all the possible responses (or everything I have said in return, which may or may not have been the right thing to say).
I get it. You got in. I am legitimately happy for you, it’s crazy how someone I know got into their dream school. But maybe tone it down a notch?
When it comes to those who have their acceptances, it may not even be that they are overly showy of their success (but if they are, just stay away until their happiness wears off). It’s just that the success of others will make you crave your own acceptance letters, which are probably coming in very soon (I know mine are). But when it comes to those who are accepted before you, the worst aspect by far is comparing yourself to them. While this is exceedingly painful if you applied to the same school, the envy still stays, no matter if they are going into zoology and you’re going into accounting. Do they have something I don’t? Should I have included that one volunteer activity I did three years ago? Should I have retaken the SAT? It’s going to drive you mad. You might cry (I cried, though it may have been because I was watching Finding Nemo that day). So just calm down, and try not to think about it. Go eat some fruit. Maybe study for your finals (are finals still going on in America?).
This title covers many different types of people, but they all have the same effect. They are depressing. They are the ones who moan and groan that they won’t get accepted anywhere, they are the ones that talk trash about others who have gotten accepted, they are the ones who bring up the acceptance rate of your dream school. They make you want to cry (are you starting to see a pattern here?). Stay away from these people. Even if they are usually the sweetest person you’ve ever met, stress brings out the worst in everyone. And if you’re the one that is constantly worrying about whether or not you’ll get into your dream school (or any school at all, because we’ve all had those thoughts), just calm down. Maybe finish that project or essay your need to do. Go eat breakfast, or whatever meal you’re about to have.
We all want to know who got into where. We all want to hear about rejections. But for the most part, people are too shy to ask. But that isn’t always the case. There are the ones who seem to know everything, the ones who messaged you on Facebook that you had never talked to before in your life, the ones that have probably compiled a list of who got in where. And I can’t blame them. We’re all grasping at straws here, refreshing pages until the site crashes, and then continuing to refresh it until the site goes back up again. So just let it be. If you want to tell others your outcomes, go for it. If you don’t, then don’t (learning to avoid topics is a great skill to have). And if you are the one that’s obsessed with knowing where everyone else was admitted, calm down. If it’s good news, you’ll know (chances are, they’ll tell you). So just sit back. Drink some water, maybe take a nap. This rush will blow over soon (until March rolls by, then it will a whole new level of stress).
As some of us get our acceptances back, just relax (I am going to keep repeating phrase this until I calm down and stop checking my email). If you got in, celebrate. Shove a cake into your mouth, shoot confetti into the sky. But if you don’t get in, calm down. I know you’ll want to apply to all of your safety schools now, which wouldn’t be an awful idea, in all honesty. But don’t do it with tears streaming down your face. It’s going to be ok. And if you’re crying after you read your letters, just know that by the time this blog is posted, I too will have received my admission letters. And I’ll be crying with you (hopefully out of happiness).
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