So you’re at this point in your life when you’re finally ready to date. You’re in college, surrounded by thousands of new faces and you’re ready to find that special someone. However, dating in college can be complicated depending on the type of school you’re going to. Perhaps you go to a school where you’ve tried to find someone in in your classes, at a club meeting, or even at a party, but you just don’t want to take that next step with them. That’s perfectly fine. I personally didn’t find anyone on my campus but that doesn’t mean that you’re destined to be alone in college. You just have to look at other routes. Like online dating.
Online dating has many forms, such as chatting anonymously, on an actual dating website, or even an app on your phone. Technology has allowed us to find someone we’re into simply by pressing a few buttons and taking a questionnaire or two. You can match with someone right down the street from you or even across the world.
I’ve known people who have found their significant other through dating apps, even though they’re on the same campus. They happen to match due to similar qualities, and a location tracker told them how far away from each other they were. Turns out, dating apps can even help you find someone 1.5 miles away. Even if you’re on the same campus, you’re still missing possibly thousands of people that you may not talk to, have classes with, or even live on the same side of campus as. Online dating just gives you an extra look at people that you may be passing by every day.
Or perhaps you’re not looking to date someone on your campus. You can use apps and websites to look for people in a different town or different states if you plan on relocating or if you aren’t having any luck around your area.
Make sure to communicate with the person that you’re talking to online. It’s good to talk about what exactly you’re both looking for before you start to take things to the next level. It can be awkward having to reject someone or even being rejected because the goals of the relationship didn’t match when you met in person. This way, you’re able to find someone that looking for the same thing as you, and you can avoid the ones that aren’t.
Even though online dating seems like a new concept, you still have to treat some aspects the same as regular dating. It’s good to get to know the person first by chatting, and even video chatting before meeting in person. It’s better to be safe than sorry and you’re able to see if you’re actually compatible. The perk of that is being able to just get to know the personality of the person instead of relying on looks, something that can be emphasized something in college. Also, meeting for the first time can be awkward, but you just have to keep in mind that they’re probably the same person that you’ve been talking to online and you have liked that person enough to want to meet them.
You may have some backlash from people, asking why you can’t just meet someone at a party or in class. But everyone is different when it comes to dating. College, even though is partly about meeting new people, doesn’t mean that you’ll meet that special person there. There are many people out there that meet their significant other online and have no problem with their dating life.
Finally, if you do get lucky and meet someone, try to balance everything out between that person and your outside activities. Whether that person is on the same campus as you or if they’re hours away, it’s still good to have some time to yourself. I can understand wanting to video chat all the time because you’re excited about the person. But remember that you’re at college to get out there and figure yourself out.