As our four year high school career comes to a close, it’s only natural that we feel a mix of emotions as we prepare to leave our familiar life for a new one. Part of the transition from high school to college involves leaving behind so many of our friends that we studied, cried, and passed AP Physics with. While we may feel ecstatic about making new friends at the colleges that we’ll be heading off to, at the same time, for many of us, it’s hard to imagine going to class without our old buddies. So, without further ado, here’s my advice on how to keep in contact with your friends and enjoy your last moments together:
Keeping in Touch
Though you may not realize, your first year at college will be, without a doubt, stressful, difficult, and simply different. As a result, you’ll need to spend a considerable amount of energy and time adjusting to this new environment and life; this will only make it harder to contact your old high school friends. Before you leave for college, try to establish flexible guidelines with your friends – if you both think that weekly phone calls are feasible, then settle for that. However, if you want to find a way to update all your friends, both new and old, about all your amazing experiences in college, then turn to social media.
Facebook is great for posting both statuses (providing you with means to complain, advertise, or share good news) and pictures (but make sure that you’re mindful of who you’re friends with on Facebook before you post anything), while Twitter is optimal for the former (though you’ll need to try and keep your thoughts within 140 characters) and Instagram is optimal for the latter (and hope that everyone double taps your quality photos). Even better, you can also keep track of what’s happening in all of your friends’ lives by looking at their social media accounts. Another app that you might consider using more often in college (if you don’t already do so) is Snapchat, which allows you to send picture messages to all your friends that delete themselves as soon as they’re opened as well as “post” pictures on your “Story” for all to see, though they’ll delete within a day. Finally, if you want to keep it simple and old-school, then you can always find out your friends’ addresses and sent them hand-written letters.
Your Last Memories Together
Pictures are the best way to capture one moment in time, perhaps your last memory with friends that you may never see again. Of course, there will be plenty of chances to take photos with your besties – prom, graduation, graduation parties, etc., but creating your own opportunities to not only take pictures, but also spend your precious time together might help ease any sad feelings that you might have about separating soon. Consider novel experiences, such as hiking a local mountain or visiting a place that you all frequented in your youths. Also, grabbing a meal at a place that you and your friends would always dine at might be a great way to bring about closure to your friendship and enjoy a wonderful “last supper” together.
It’s absolutely okay to feel nervous about saying goodbye to your friends, but that doesn’t mean you have to stay nervous. I think it’s important to remember that there are plenty of people to meet at the college that you’ll be attending and that there are a plethora of ways to keep in touch with your old friends. Finally, I’ll leave you with the wisdom of a honey-loving, adorable bear: “How lucky I am to something that makes saying goodbye so hard” – Winnie the Pooh.