There are so many horror stories that circulate about friendships being ruined because of choosing to share a dorm room together. However, with these helpful tips, I believe that anyone can have a successful living experience with one of their best friends. It’s not always easy, but it can happen. I promise.
As cliche as it might sound, communication is key. Solid friendships can not have a strong basis without honesty and openness, especially if you are going to be sharing a cramped dorm room together.
It’s probably not a very good idea to bombard your roommate with a ton of rules that they must obey. However, planning a casual conversation to discuss what you would prefer to have and to have not happen in your dorm room is a good idea.
For instance, it’s important to always warn your roommate when someone will be coming over. No one wants to come out of the shower and be surprised by a certain someone. I repeat, ALWAYS do this.
When both you and your roommate keep each other in the loop of what’s going on and are thoughtful of each other, less problems will be likely to arise.
Know When to Compromise
Being willing to compromise can be hard; however, it can definitely pay off in the end. Setting your pride aside and putting yourself in another person’s shoes can really help you to understand when compromising might be necessary.
For example, if your roommate is overwhelmed with tests and their side of the room is more messy than normal, take a moment and put yourself in their shoes. Be understanding that cleanliness isn’t their top priority at the moment and wait until after all their tests are over before worrying about having a spotless room.
This is a time when it’s important to pick and choose your battles. If you can let it just roll off your back, just let it. This will enable you to avoid trivial arguments with your roommate, and you won’t be constantly nagging them.
Support Each Other
College can be some of the best years of your life; however, it can also be some of the toughest years.
Moving away from your family, friends, and home can be a very difficult adjustment. Friendships and relationships can leave you feelings ecstatic one minute and crazy emotional the next. The pressure of college exams will make you surprised your head doesn’t literally explode.
However, it will help tremendously if you and your roommate are there for each other through thick and thin. Don’t be selfish and think your problems are bigger or more important than your friend’s. College has its fair share of highs and lows for everyone so be there for your roommate no matter what.
If your roommate needs to vent or cry away the stress of the day, let them and be there to listen. You could be in the same exact position the next day.
Push Each Other to Branch Out
Making new friendships in college can be super exciting, but being attached at the hip could hinder you and your roommates chances of meeting new people.
It is completely possible to gain new friendships while also cherishing the old ones.
Whether it be joining greek life, church groups, or any other on campus organization, it is important to pursue new friendships. The awesome part about college is that there are so many different people from all walks of life. If you put yourself out there you will be sure to find some great new friends that will fill your life with inspiration, authenticity, and adventure.