So your friend has just invited you to go on a college visit with them. This experience can be an exciting one. Getting a first look at colleges with someone that knows you pretty well can be helpful and really make you reflect on what’s best for you. However, there can be some drawbacks. Here are some pros and cons to consider before going on a college visit with a friend.
Pro: You’re able to consult them for a second opinion
Although you’re able to get an opinion from your parents, it may be from the parent point of view and not the student point of view. They may not understand why you’re worried about some things and excited about others. Having your friend there to talk about certain clubs or joining a sorority or fraternity is helpful as they can imagine themselves in that position, then they can try to give you the best possible advice.
Con: They’re priorities are not the same as yours
Even though you’re friends, maybe they want to go to a more Greek life driven school, or perhaps you both have different financial aid packages and it may be too expensive for one of you to go to the school. Some of the most important parts of college to you, may not be important to them. When it comes to visiting the college, you may end up wanting to see different things than each other, which could cause tension. If you were to go with family or by yourself, you will have your best interests at heart and won’t have to worry about splitting up your time between the things that you want to do and what your friend may want to do. Maybe make a list of things that you want to do together, then make a separate list of things you’ll do apart. That way, you’ll get the chance to explore the things that are important to you.
Pro: You’re able to plan together
If you’re both interested in the same college, or you both know you’re attending that same college, then it’s easier to plan things such as dorm rooms. Living with a friend can be a great experience, as long as you make sure you’re on the same page. You can start to plan what dorm you may want to live in, what style of room, how many people per room as well as furniture. Being there with your friend is easier to talk things through about your room as well as anything else instead of having to send them pictures of the bed, the size of the room, and other components, then wait for a response.
Con: You may be attached at the hip
Visiting a college with a friend can be comforting. Being in a place that you’ve never been before with someone that if familiar and you’ve known for a while is helpful. However, having your comfort zone with you may make you less likely to explore things on your own. Sure, it may give you confidence to do things, but it could also give you a reason not to go out and do things that may do by yourself. If you’re like me and have an inseparable friend, make sure to give each other a little time by yourselves. Being able to get a feel of the school on your own may make things clearer and easier for you to decide which school is best for you.
A college visit can be daunting. Whether or not things go without a hitch, try to have fun and do new things! It’s nice to be able to do something new with a friend. It makes things a little less scary. Going on a college visit with a friend can be a nice compromise as you’ll have a little piece of home with you as you enter the next stage of your life.