Well, you’ve gotten into the college of your dreams, despite that B minus in Chemistry and a strange/super meta essay about your dog. Now what?
Enter stage right: the accepted students college Facebook group. For me, it was WesAdmits 2016. For others, it was Accepted Northwestern or F&%$ YEAH WE GOT INTO YALE! As someone going to a school that almost no one knows about (or can spell), I was both excited and curious about my future classmates who appeared on the WesAdmits page: people who love Wesleyan and want to talk about it all the time and have a desire to make new friends? Yes!
Of course, these admitted students pages are a blessing and curse. Upperclassmen begin trolling them like no other; random people who didn’t even apply to your school somehow gain access and start commenting; and sometimes people can just be really awkward and weird.
But alas, we college students who have been through the grind are here to keep you from being the kid who asks, “how many circuses come to Wesleyan each year?” (because that did happen, I swear).
- Engage in conversations that interest you. If someone asks who’s doing a sport, feel free to write down that you’re doing crew or swimming or basketball. No one’s going to shame you as a weirdo for that.
- Make connections with people. Some of my best friends are peeps I first met on WesAdmits. BUT LILY, THE INTERNET IS A SCARY PLACE. Eh, there are a few super cool people out there.
- Friend request a couple people you’ve had extensive conversations with if you feel like it. If they don’t accept, don’t get offended. Everyone takes a different approach to these sorts of things.
- Suggest meet ups with people if you live in a city or large town. Again, no internet shame in meeting people for coffee (that’s so college, right?). Just make sure you’re not getting matching “Best Friends 4ever” bracelets during you’re outing.
- PROOFREAD. Think about what you are saying. Writing “i luv al of u soooo much” may make people conclude that you’re either illiterate or trying too hard. USE PROPER ENGLISH. BE CLEVER. BE GENUINE. BE YOURSELF.
- Comment on literally every thread ever all day err day. People will get weary of your talkativeness. Remember: even if you’re just having a random conversation with one person, thousands of people can see it. The phrase “less is more” comes to mind.
- Friend request every single freaking kid in the group. Please do not be that person. Believe me, everyone knows who that person is when you all get to campus. It gets mega awkward, especially because when you walk by, people will whisper, “That’s so-and-so, the kid who friend requested everyone on the admits page!” #totesawkbrah
- Be surprised when people are different in person than they are on the internet. It happens all the time, and it doesn’t mean people are frauds. Some students are more talkative on the Internet; others are crazy people in real life but totally radio silent online.
- Use eight million emoticons, all caps, or (as noted earlier) extremely poor grammar. Even if you use these as means of expression in the other parts of your cyber life, strangers will judge you and actually remember you as “the kid who used ‘u’ instead of ‘you'” when you get to school.
- Share your Tumblr, Twitter, or other corners of cyberspace. They get too personal, and even if you think these are “safe spaces” with no scandalous pieces of info about you, they’re not. College admits page people will find anything bad/weird (not on purpose, just through heavy doses of intense, senioritis-induced stalking).
- Ask really specific questions (for example, “What are the dimensions for a room on the third floor of Dorm X?”). No one on the page is going to know, and you’re better off asking your school’s Orientation Interns, Orientation Leaders, or Residential Life staff.
- Say any of the stuff you see on Accepted 2017. Don’t. Do. It.
The take away: use your admitted students Facebook group to get excited and learn about the people you’ll be going to school with for the next four years. But don’t use it as your only means of social communication. And choose your words wisely.