In the freezing winter, you bundle up and get cozy with your favorite coat. In the warm spring, you let your toes loose in your favorite pair of flip flops. You don’t see that warm, fuzzy coat for a few months, but when winter comes around it still fits just the way you remembered. Like some your clothes-of-choice change during the seasons, your group of friends may often change with the seasons as well. Different activities that change hand during the seasons can either push you together or pull you apart, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.
Law of Attraction
Prepare to be amazing by the scientific evidence and psychological jargon to explain seasonal friendship! Social psychologists cite the mere exposure effect and the propinquity effect as reasons we become friends with the people we are surrounded with. The mere exposure effect states that the more familiar we become with something, the more likely we are to favor it. In terms of people, the people we frequently come in contact with appeal more to us. The propinquity effect states that the more alike we are to another thing – or person- the more we like it, or him or her. So, you are more likely to become friends with someone if he or she enjoys the same activities as you do. Hence, when seasons change you are likely to develop a strong relationship with people in your current activity. For example, you switch from fall cross country season to a winter theater show. The cross country friends may become the coat you put away for the winter: still valued and cared for, just more distant.
With each activity, you get to meet new people with different interests. While you may love to hit up the Nike Store with your cross country friends, the theater group might be best to go critique the latest Disney remake movie. Seasonal friends allow you to mix it up for awhile and participate in fun things that you do not do year-round.
Some high schools can be massive and it is virtually impossible to meet everyone. Luckily seasonal friends help you branch out. By having friends in other groups, they connect you with people you may not have met yet! Who knows, a friend’s other seasonal friend may need a physics tutor, and you rock at physics. One thing leads to another and you’ve got yourself a prom date that never would have happened without the connections.
Seasonal friendships can sometimes result in shallow friendships if they rest solely on the fact that you are only participating in the same activity. Try to find more outside common interests so you can build a friendship that will last the “long distance” of being separate by different activities.
While you are both busy with your separate activities, you may feel your friendship fading. People often naturally grow apart when they do not see each other constantly, and that is part of life. It might not always feel like “old times” on the field the following season.
If you find that you have different groups of friends for each season, do not feel bad. Seasonal friends will come and go all through life. The important part is having a solid support system that will always have your back and cheer you on, even if they are not in the same sport. Remember to stay in contact and send a “what’s up?” text every now and then to stay updated on each other’s lives.