When you reach your second year of college, it’s common that students are excited to break free of the dorm life and switch to a house or apartment. However, some students have reasons why they are unable to make the move. For example, you may not be able to afford it since living off campus means paying a couple hundred dollars each month while paying it all in full for a dorm might be easier to just get out of the way. Regardless of the reason, it can be hard to come to terms with staying in the dorms when it seems like literally everyone else is making the big change and you’ve stayed in the exact same location. Though you might not be moving as far as those off campus, this is a change of its own that can be challenging to say the least. Here are some of the best tips for dealing with this. You might even find that you (gasp) wind up enjoying yourself in the dorms.
1. Be open to meeting new people
You might have had a certain group of people that you talked to all the time your freshman year. If most of them are gone, it can be strange at first. But don’t be afraid to open yourself up to other people. As a sophomore, it might seem like you’re the only one surrounded by a bunch of freshman, but that isn’t always a bad thing. Befriending freshman may seem lame to some of us, but they are new students who are just like you in the respect that you both are looking for friends. I’m not saying that all of them are going to be your new best friend, but if you aren’t open to the idea then you’ll never get anywhere.
2. Go places with your roommate
Not all students are best friends with their roommate, especially if this is a new person who you didn’t room with the previous year. However, you may find that you actually enjoy his or hers company. You find this out by inviting them to eat lunch with you or going with them to a party that you heard about. Living together is a big deal and finding some time to at least make an effort to bond can be really important to you in the long run.
3. Introduce yourself to everyone on your floor
This one might seem a little stalkerish but it depends on how you go about it. I don’t recommend knocking on all your neighbors doors and bringing them cookies or something, but make an effort to wave and try to introduce yourself if you run into them. If you see the girl across the hall come out of her room as you enter yours, make some kind of an effort to tell you who you are. People might think that you are a friendly person and start to talk to you more. If this is something that you’re uncomfortable with then don’t do it, it’s just a suggestion that I think could work for those of you that are a little hesitant about making new friends with people in the dorm. If you do this, the same rules apply to number one, some of these people might just brush you off and not want to talk to you at all. You never know until you try and what’s the worst that could happen if you’re rejected?
4. Reach out to your RA
Some students find that their RA’s are actually really cool. Whether you have a new or returning RA, you should still do your best to reach out to them. I know you might be asking, “Why should I be reaching out, shouldn’t they be reaching to me?” But they have many kids to worry about so it can be hard for them to be the first to reach out. They are sure to appreciate it if you take advantage of their presence and reach out to them. I specifically recommend this one if you’re feeling completely alone. Your RA is a great person to turn to in these circumstances.
5. Have a positive attitude
This one is probably the most important of all. You have to have a positive attitude if you want people to feel comfortable around you. If you’re completely bitter and cold about the whole situation then you’ll probably come off that way to others and they won’t want to be around you. That’s why being positive and open and making the best of the situation is what will be best for you.