In four days I had been asked approximately 25 times why I wanted to join a sorority. Every time I told the girls, I talked about the same rehearsed three reasons. I told them that I had attended a small high school and needed to make my humongous campus a little bit smaller. Next I talked about how I enjoy community service and helping others. My third “point” was that I also like to become very involved in every club and activity I become a part of and that I wanted to be able to take on leadership roles to gain more experience.
Those things were all true, but there were many reasons why I wanted to join a sorority. The networking opportunities that come with being affiliated are plentiful and vast. I have sisters all over the world who are willing to help me land an internship or job. Being part of a sorority also brought me together with girls who have similar beliefs as I do. I wanted to be around people who were like me, people who brought out the best in me. I knew recruitment would be difficult, but I also knew that I was good at marketing myself so I had no fear that I would find the right place for me.
My new member class consisted of 54 girls, which is about the same as the number of girls the other sororities that did formal recruitment had. It was difficult getting to know all 54 girls, but we bonded. We did not get hazed at all. If my sorority did haze us then I would not be a part of it. Instead, we took the time to get to know one another. Eventually I found my small group of friends within the sorority and I feel so fortunate to have them in my life.
Being at UConn, my campus is so large and I am not sure if I would have met my sisters had I not joined a sorority. But, I know that I am not friends with them because I’m being “forced” to be friends with them. We all genuinely enjoy each others company. While yes, I do have to say that not all 150-something girls in my sorority would drop what they’re doing if I needed something, I know that these girls all care. No one joins a sorority for the sole purpose of meeting boys and going to parties. Women join sororities to make bonds with people who are similar to them, who have the same interests and goals as them.
I have found that what I put into my sorority is what I get out of it. By taking leadership positions and becoming involved with my chapter I have been able to get to know a lot about the Greek system and about my sorority in the short amount of time I have been a part of this world. I have been able to meet men and women in the different fraternities and sororities who are very good people who want to make Greek life better. There is a huge difference between the Greek life that is displayed in the media and what actually goes on. Sure, things get competitive when events like Homecoming and Greek Week happen. Yes, crafting is something that happens quite often, too.
However, a lot of the things that happen on television are not anything like what I have experienced here. None of my sorority sisters have tried to intimidate me and make me feel inferior. I have never been forced to do anything I do not want to do. I am not paying for my friends, and if I did, then I am not paying enough. I am obligated to attend a lot of events with my sisters, but I go to many of the events because I enjoy being in the presence of my sisters. If I did not want to be around them, then I would have dropped during the new member period or I would deactivate.
The truth is, there are all kinds of girls in my sorority. There are outgoing ones, introverted ones, crazy ones, independent ones, dependent ones, and the list goes on. There is no straight definition of a sorority girl, despite whatever stereotypes the media likes to throw out there. The women I know, who I am lucky enough to call my sisters, are all amazing, strong, beautiful women both inside and out. I am happy with my choice. I am happy I “went Greek.”